Setting boundaries is not like putting up a wall. In fact, its more like putting up a fence with a gate. Followed knowing and understanding your own personal values enough to allow said values to be the gate keeper. Keeping a running tally of who gets to come in and out of the gate.
And for each person in our lives the fence and the amount the gates is opened may look different.
In this conversation Amanda walks us through just how crucial boundary setting is to maintain our life's happiness.
We run through setting boundaries, revisiting old boundaries and even allowing our boundaries to be our guide when maybe there needs to be a purging of people who don't respect our boundaries from out lives.
Having a solid understanding of your personal and family values is the first step into being able to building your fence and deciding when to open and close the gate. And sometimes it takes some clear communication, and event some adjustment of communication to make clear where the fence is and how freely it opens.
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Books to read:
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life -John Townsend
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Amanda believes that every great conversation requires listening.
"If you are not listening, then why are you even here." - Amanda Wells
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